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Conversations with my 13 year old self…

Can you be a feminist without knowing what a feminist is? This is one question that I have been asking myself over the past few days. On one hand it seems so incredibly obvious that the answer is yes, people can have a belief without actually knowing what humans have decided to classify it as, and that thought made me think that, case closed, I was a feminist before I actually knew what the terminology was.

But, on the other hand, I have learned so much over the past year about many people’s ideas and beliefs about what feminism is, and what it means to them, that the thought of saying that people can be something without discovering what it truly means to them seems most untrue. Until this year, I didn’t really express my thoughts as much as I do now. I acknowledge them a lot more than I did before.

For some reason, giving something a name seems to clarify a lot of things for me, and most people alike. It is kind of like looking at one tiny part of a picture, trying to figure out what it means, and then one day looking up at the rest of the picture, and then it all makes sense.

Knowing that there are in fact people that think the same way as me was really important to me, not because I am afraid of being different, but because you have like minded people you can talk to, and you aren’t trying to make the whole world see things the way you do.

I haven’t been debating this in my head enough to come to a conclusion, so I’ll let you know when I’m done to the final round. In the mean time, thoughts? I would love to know what others think about the subject.



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Being a Feminist

I would never utter the word feminist at school, let alone declare that I am one. This has nothing to do with what I am sure some of you are thinking, that she she ashamed of it. And I know a few of you would probably take that one step further and say, well, that makes sense, really, I would ashamed too. But it is nothing like that. It’s because the people at school wouldn’t get it, they would think that I am some nutter that doesn’t shave and is frantically urging all women to burn their bras. But that isn’t what feminism is about for me. And the students that I attend school with wouldn’t understand it.

So I don’t bother advertising it. And why should I? I think feminists can have the impact that they want to have without declaring that they are in fact feminists. It is sad, however, that feminism isn’t a concept that is embraced, and that many people know very little about it. And I guess it isn’t just a lack of knowledge which is sad, not everyone is going to take interest in it, and they shouldn’t, it is more the assumptions that people make, and the opinions that people form, when they really don’t have the first clue about what they are talking about.

There are many good things about calling yourself a feminist. So of course there are going to be some bad things. Labeling yourself as a feminist is a hard thing to do. Mainly because it involves labeling yourself. I get that many feminists are probably thinking, hey, that isn’t fair, that isn’t what I signed up for, I’m about creating my own kind of feminism, or I don’t agree with everything about feminism, just enough to call myself one. I’m not talking about what you define as feminism, I’m talking about what society defines as feminism, and more specifically, what adolescents define as feminism. And unfortunately, society won’t always see it the same way you do.

I have known from a young age that feminism was going to be my passion, my belief, my religion, and my whole life was going to revolve around it, and that all my morals and values were going to be based on it. But it is hard admitting to yourself, and to others that this is what you believe in. More than your friends, more than your family, more than your families friends. It is hard. Why? Because it is putting yourself out there. It is letting everyone’s own definition of feminism become a part of your life. Because not everyone is going to understand your own personal definition of feminism.

I think feminism is a lot like Christianity. Both have started because of one main, big, popular idea, and both have broken into different forms of it. There are different forms of Christianity, and there are different forms of feminism. I think that people should keep that in mind, just because people call themselves one thing, doesn’t mean that they are what they think you are. By that I mean, just because someone calls themselves a feminist doesn’t mean that they are what you think a feminist is.

There are many good things about being a feminist as well, it isn’t all bad. You get to be a part of something big, a movement, and you get to make it up. You get to stand up for what you believe in, practice what you believe in, make people’s heads turn. One of the biggest lessons that I have learned, is that feminism is not one size fits all, and that you can make it whatever you want it to be. Whether people understand what you are about or not.



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The whole concept of Easter, to me, means nothing. Not because I don’t believe in god, which I don’t, not because I have a problem with people practicing Christianity, because I don’t, but because of the fact that there is very little truth.

There is a very small part of Easter that actually has anything to do with Jesus. In fact, there is one thing. I’ll explain. There was a festival, a long long long time ago, that was invented by the the first civilization. I am, of cause talking about the Sumerians [don’t feel bad if you have no idea what I’m talking about, the only reason I know about the first civilizations is because I’m learning about them in my Ancient and Middle ages class at school] The Sumerians didn’t have jobs like we do today, their only job was farming. Each family would grow crops, and that was their food supply.  If the crops were bad, and couldn’t supply food, the family would essentially die, unless they could get very friendly with someone whose crops were doing exceptionally well. At about this time each year, they would have a festival, and they would try to please their gods, so that their crops would do well.

Aren't they pretty?

Rabbits became the symbol for this event, because they did, and still do, breed well, along with the egg. This tradition continued. Jesus was put to death, simply because the Romans and Jews feared that he was going to take power, and make their own religions obsolete. Christianity was illegal at that time, but was secretly practiced, until, one day, a Roman emperor decided to make it legal. Christianity wasn’t popular enough to score its own festival, so they decided to merge it with another one.

So using this line of logic, which may not be completely correct, even though I believe in it, the only thing Easter has to do with Christ is that he died around the same time of year as this other festival. The eggs, the bunny rabbits, has nothing to do with Jesus and his death. And the chocolate eggs, well that’s just a clever marketing pun, which has made people millions. I wonder if the Sumerians are happy we still practice some of their traditions?


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How to become a christain

I was at a friends house, reading the bible that she had, not because she was religious, but because she needed it for school. Anyway, I came across this:

How to become a christian

the way to live life god’s way is to become a christian. But how? Four simple words show how to begin and the path to take.

Turn: Change the direction of your life by living the way god wants, rather than doing things your own way.

Trust: Believe that what Jesus said and did was true and that he can work in your life today.

Take: Receive what Jesus has promised- forgiveness, love, purpose and new life.

Talk: talk to someone you know who is christian, or contact your local christian church and speak to a minster, priest or pastor.

The concept of a four-step process to become a christian is completely laughable in my opinion. I think the first one, turn, is my favourite. The idea of changing yourself so you can live your life the way god wants you to is complete bullshit as far as I’m concerned. I mean, doesn’t the bible encourage you to be your own person? What would happen if everyone was the same? How does anyone know how god wants us to live anyway? There are so many different adaptations of Christianity, all with their own beliefs, that  it’s hard to find common ground.

I don’t even really believe that you can ‘become’ a christian. You can be a follower, or someone that uses the principals of Christianity, or someone that calls themselves a christian because they feel better about themselves, or because their parents are around,  I don’t think any person could uphold everything that god apparently expects them to, and don’t think that anyone should. People have to make mistakes to learn.

I would like to make it cleat that, although I am not  a Christian and I don’t believe in god, I am not in any way making fun of god or Christianity or even the bible. I am purely mocking the idea of there being a four-step process to becoming a christian. I think that the morals that Christians live by are honorable, and am on no mission to demean that.


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